I had a client who was obsessed with not allowing himself to think negative thoughts. He reframed all of his thoughts to always focus on the positive.
I asked him why he did it, and his answer reminded me of a silly idea I learned as a kid that terrified me for years! (I’ll tell you the idea at the end. I bet you heard it before! A part of me is embarrassed to say.)
When you feel confused or have a problem, most people will tell you that you have to seek clarity or get clear.
Today, I want to invite you to consider something different.
What if you don’t actually have to seek anything?
What if clarity isn’t the issue?
Watch this video and comment below about what you think could be blocking your clarity.
I tell people how I sabotaged my business, but I don’t usually tell them WHY I was doing it.
As I write my 2nd book, I’ve decided to start talking about how I was stuck in a pattern of debt and struggle because a part of me didn’t believe I was worthy of money, success and love.
There’s a part of me that believes that I’m not good enough or worthy enough to have all of the intentions I want. This part of me started when I was a kid and my dad was addicted to crack.
Here’s the story of my last 3 webinars and my 2800% sales increase. I decided last year that I wanted to enter the webinar game. So, I hired the best business coach ($6000) and learned how to do a webinar model that was making him millions.
I followed everything he said, launched my first webinar, and didn’t sell a damn thing. I actually lost $250 because that’s what I spent on FB traffic.
I was discouraged and ready to give up, but my coach soothed my wounded spirit by informing me that it all wasn’t a bust. I had gotten over 200 more people on my list from the FB ad.
I didn’t want to give up and I didn’t want to risk losing anymore money, so I launched a second webinar with no paid traffic, but only got 1 sign up. I cancelled the webinar the day before launch day!
I was completely discouraged and ready to give up on the webinar funnel until I decided to practice what I preach and make one tweak to my webinar process.
This tweak had nothing to do with the structure of he webinar, the script, the copy, follow up sequence, or marketing. I left the entire webinar process exactly the same. However, I changed one thing:
When I decided I no longer needed a “feeling magician” to make my feelings disappear, I started my healing process.
My healing began when I stopped using the magic wands of affirmations, distractions, or denial. They were just illusions anyway.
I’d wave that wand of affirmations and tell myself, “You are worthy.” My feelings of unworthiness would look like they disappeared, but they were just buried deep under a layer of words that a part of me didn’t believe at all.
Wait….Don’t call the police or worry. I’m fine. Nobody kidnapped me or anything like that. I was holding myself hostage for a couple hours.
Fear is something quite powerful. We dream big to make things happen in our lives, but many times our fears block us from experiencing the love, abundance, and joy of ever single moment even when we achieve our goals.
This just happened for me. My dream for the past six months was to move out to San Diego and work by the beach. I dreamed big, took inspired action, and it happened.
And by it, I mean living in a million dollar condo, right on the beach in Coronado. Don’t ask me how this happened because I have no idea. Once again, I dreamed big, took inspired action, and BAM…it landed in my lap.