I Tripped and Almost Broke My Ego!
Yesterday I was running along the beautiful banks of the marina in Coronado, CA. The sun was shining, and I was jamming to my favorite music as I ran along the trail.
I looked to the right to check out a really nice house that was on the market and as soon as I turned my head to the side, everything went into slow motion. I kicked the curb with my right foot and clumsily took 3 or 4 more steps before I gracefully crashed to the ground on my right knee.
End slow motion. I got up as quickly as I could, attempted to look around to see if anybody was watching, and ran away as fast as I could.
I was mortified. I had just tripped over my own two feet and fell in the middle of the sidewalk. As I continued to jog, I noticed that I was hobbling. I had hurt my knee and foot, but I wasn’t willing to stop because I was afraid somebody was back there laughing at me.
So I continued to run and finished my 3.5-mile run with a hurt, throbbing knee and toe. Today, my knee is swollen and my toe feels like it’s going to fall off.
I asked myself why I didn’t stop running, take a second to recover, and see if I needed to get help or walk back home.
It was my ego. I felt like I could survive a broken toe, but a broken ego would have been impossible to recover from.
Where are you tripping in your life and protecting your ego instead of stopping, checking in with yourself, and asking for help.
I realized in an instant that I used to do that in my business.
When I took my in-person business online, I tripped and fell big time. I was so embarrassed and afraid to stop, check-in, and ask for help. I was sure that everyone would be laughing at me or say the dreaded, “I told you so!” So, I got up and decided to pretend like nothing had ever happened.
My ego was intact, but I was in a lot of pain.
That pain continued to grow and influence every aspect of my business. I started procrastinating, feeling confused, and unmotivated. Until finally I realized why I was having trouble taking my business to the next level. After tripping, I was terrified of falling flat on my face again. I started sabotaging my business because I was afraid to get bigger and go higher. If I went higher and fell, the fall would be much more painful. So, I sabotaged my progress so I could stay small.
Have you tripped in your business and found it difficult to recover? Are you surviving a rough patch that doesn’t seem to be getting better? Are you protecting your ego instead of being there for the parts of you that are terrified of continuing and falling flat on your face again?
If you are, it’s time to stop, check in, and get some help. Every time a project doesn’t go as planned, you get negative feedback, or things get rough in your business, a part of you gets terrified of that happening again. So to protect you, this part tries to keep you small so that you don’t have to endure an even bigger fall in the future.
This is how self-sabotage works. If you want to recover from a rough patch, shine your light bright, and thrive in what you do, it’s important to build a relationship with the parts of you that are terrified of falling.
If you don’t, you’ll end up with a protected ego and a lot of stress and wondering why you couldn’t take it to the next level in your business.
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